Resources

Understanding Behavior, Motivation & Rethinking Discipline

For parents who feel like rewards, consequences, and behavior charts aren’t working, and want a deeper, more respectful approach.

Alfie Kohn
Challenges traditional discipline, rewards, and punishment; advocates for connection, autonomy, and intrinsic motivation.
alfiekohn.org
Ross Greene, Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS)
Built on the idea that “kids do well if they can.” Offers practical tools for understanding lagging skills.
livesinthebalance.org
Dr. Mona Delahooke
A brain-based, relationship-centered approach to behavior and regulation.
monadelahooke.com
Dr. Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory
Foundational work on how the nervous system shapes behavior, connection, and feelings of safety.

For navigating systems that weren’t designed with your child in mind.

DREDF (Disability Rights Education & Defense Fund)
Legal rights, IEP/504 guidance, parent-friendly trainings, a deep dive into special education law and advocacy, and free support navigating special education.
dredf.org
Understood: IEP & 504 Guide
A clear breakdown of the differences between IEPs and 504 plans and the supports each offers.
understood.org